"When two people decide to get a divorce, it isn't a sign that they "don't understand" one another, but a sign that they have, at last, begun to."
Helen Rowland, English-American Writer, 1876 - 1950.
"What appears to be the end may really be a new beginning."
Alternative Dispute Resolution (ADR)
To successfully “Uncouple,” a complex web of intertwined processes must be untangled. These processes operate in six dimensions: (1) emotional distancing and disengagement, (2) financial separation, (3) division of parental responsibilities, (4) community (friends and family) realignment, (5) psychological re-centering, and (6) the legal decree. Uncoupling can be achieved by using several different ADR approaches.
All ADR approaches include the preparation and filing of all court required legal documents including the Marital Settlement Agreement or Legal Separation Agreement.
Dr. Grether, a Clinical Psychologist and Qualified Mediator, provides ADR services for all the approaches described below to help Achieve Resolution and Preserve Relationships.
Kids First Divorce
The needs of the minor children are met through the child-centered Kids First Divorce. The Kids First Divorce is focused on the emotional, intellectual, physical, social and spiritual developmental needs of your child. From this focus a comprehensive co-parenting plan is developed to meet those needs. Child timesharing, holiday schedules and parental responsibilities are addressed in detail.
Special Needs Divorce/ Legal Separation
ADR is the most sensible approach to uncouple a relationship especially when your situation involves psychological problems, alcohol or drug abuse, or children with special needs (ADHD, ASD, PDD, or LD).
You can have an uncontested judgment of dissolution or legal separation filed with the Court in 60 days or less, even though California has a waiting period of six months before a divorce is granted. You may qualify for an uncontested divorce if you and your spouse agree on the important issues: (1) Division of Property, (2) Child Custody and Timesharing, and (3) Support. Ask if your situation qualifies.
Mediation & Facilitation
Mediation and Facilitation offers the opportunity to uncouple, resolve disputes through cooperative dialog, and preserve an operating relationship. You are guided to identify the issues and to brainstorm solutions that work best for you and your family. A future-oriented solution-focused approach facilitates problem solving enabling you to find areas of common ground for the property division, child custody, and financial support.
The Mediation process is confidential. You need not worry about airing your differences in a public forum. Mediation and Facilitation is by far the most cost and time effective method to divorce or legally separate. If your situation is complex, an array of professional resources are available at our location to assist you with a variety of concerns ranging from legal, financial, taxes, forensic accounting, parenting, retirement plans, and many more. In the Mediation model each person may have “consulting attorneys” with whom they independently consult, as needed. Quality is never compromised.
“Co-Mediation” involves the couple working with two mediators: a Clinical Psychologist and a Family Law Attorney. The Co-Mediation Team provides the couple with professionals who have in-depth training, knowledge, and experience in all aspects of the uncoupling process. The Co-Mediation team is gender-balanced, which helps avoid the emotionally-based perception of mediator bias. In this model each person may have “consulting attorneys” with whom they independently consult, as needed.
Collaborative & Cooperative Practice
Collaborative Practice is another solution-oriented approach to divorce or legal separation. Each client has a Collaborative Attorney. The clients and attorneys sign a written agreement not to go to court providing the clients with collaborative representation without litigation. The clients are supported throughout the divorce process by one or more Clinical Psychologists serving as coach or child specialist, and a divorce financial analyst.
In Cooperative Practice each client has full legal representation from their attorneys. The clients and attorneys agree informally to resolve all issues peacefully. Seeking a decision in Court is the last resort in Cooperative Practice. As in a Collaborative Practice the couple is supported throughout the process by Clinical Psychologists (coach, child specialist) and a divorce financial analyst.
Craig's office in Carlsbad is conveniently located to San Diego, Orange and Riverside Counties for in-person services. He also provides Nationwide VideoMediation (videoconferencing) and Telemediation (telephone mediation).